It is useful to talk about death. A lot of traditions appreciate it, for example, famous essay of Seneca “Ad Paulinum de brevitate vitae” (On the shortness of life), there are a lot of Buddhist meditation as well. It’s about thinking how much time we have, thatdeath is inevitable and we should live our life consciously not wasting ourselves to small things. Seneca said: “It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it. Life is long enough, and a sufficiently generous amount has been given to us for the highest achievements if it were all well invested. But when it is wasted in heedless luxury and spent on no good activity, we are forced at last by death’s final constraint to realize that it has passed away before we knew it was passing. So it is: we are not given a short life but we make it short, and we are not ill-supplied but wasteful of it… Life is long if you know how to use it.”

Thinking helps us to define our global priorities and what is important not only at this moment but matters for your soul. When you know you’re mortal, you change your attitude to life and start appreciate it more. This often happens when you ill, have a near-death experience and when you lose your close friends and relatives. Life is fragile.

We are afraid of death in our culture. A lot of tales from folklore tell us how dead man take away the alive ones, for example, mermaids (which in Slavic culture are the drowned girls with no fishtail) put chants on the strangers and drag them into the underworld. The cemetery magic based on myth that every dead man is ready to help your just for the piece of fresh meat. Death is all about mystery, and it’s scary.

You are scared because of lack of information. You are scared of unknown dead men, but you ok with your grandmother passed away when you were 10. Restless soul is something unknown, formless, some kind of devil, goblin or just dark figure. Boo! Cemetery is very scary at night. All the deceased are bad, they will drag you into the grave right into the hell and do scary things there with you. What a nice screenplay! And so untrue.

I got to tell you, life is even scarier. It all depends on which dead man we are talking about. If there is a restless soul – yes, we have all reasons to be scared. If there is a deceased not from your family – you should be scared too. But if there is a guardian spirit – everything could be fine depending on lifestyle of your relative, the way he died, what was he thinking, what was the conclusions in his head – these factors determine the further journey of the soul.

There are several ways where the soul can go after death. Before starting reincarnation process, there are few stages person should pass through. Shortly, if you lived your life well and died well, then you will be free. Died well means the understanding that he is dead, he went through burial rituals with prayers, where applicable. Everything was performed in accordance with rules and the person is gone to the Other side. If something was made wrong the soul may get stuck between the worlds.

Frankly speaking, rules are also not applicable sometimes. If the person was not very religious, all burials procedures will not affect him on energy level. It is just the following the rules. If the person was true Christian, the rituals matter. If he was atheist, his spirit will be indifferent if the body was buried or cremated with prayers or in silence. The most important thing is to calm the soul of the person you’ve known rather than following the rules.

I would like to tell you the important thing. When one asks, where the soul is going, it is supposed that there are two ways out – heaven, up and hell, down. Sorry. Neither heaven nor hell. Neither up nor down. The souls are right here in our space, in our everyday life just before and behind us – we just don’t see them. As we can’t see the air, so we can’t see dead souls. You can break down air into molecules and alike the space has tiny cells for restless spirits, our beloved ones, etc. It is very important for understanding. And yes, just in front of you there is your dead grandmother. She has another form and structure now, that’s the difference. The older the death, the further the spirit and weaker the impact. As soon as you focus your attention on it, attract it, the energy will be activated. It’s not magic, it’s science, the quantum physics which states that object is changing when observed. All worlds and dimensions are around us, right here, we just can’t see them because of our minds, because of what we consider as reality, because we don’t want to open up our consciousness to light energies. I’m not saying about freeing your mind by any and all the ways like yoga, meditation, drugs (in some cultures this is the way to enlightenment, too), I mean the expansion of your perception to be mindful and sensitive. Training your intuition and sensibility to flows of energy is useful, it gives the feeling that you are not lost, that you live your own life, not someone else’s. These skills are not just for talking to ghosts. Believe me, though in media and in movies we see the romantic vision of medium’s life, in fact and in real life it is not easy at all. An there are a few real mediums, not only tv stars of psychic shows.

Afterlife is not the cemetery either. The cemetery is a spiritual storage of dead bodies, storage of energy of death. But is not afterlife. If it was, the connection with dead spirits would be possible on the cemetery only, but in practice to connect with the dead soul I don’t have to visit the place of his bury (it is very hard when the body is cremated). Afterworld is like Internet. It’s everywhere but it is accessible only if you duly connected. Any information of past or future is in the internet itself, you just surfing to find it. Where is the Internet? Somewhere here around us. Everywhere and nowhere. Just like that the dead souls and not bodies, they are souls. And soul is completely different energy.

I see the world as layers of information. When the person is sitting in front of me, on the left above I see his father’s side, on the right – mothers’ side, I can see the family of my client (both alive and dead). Late grandparents are above and a bit further. Overhead I see the divine channel and sometimes this channel is much brighter and stronger than ancestral channel. This means that connection with the god, angels, whatever you call them, is stronger that connection with family. In that case my clients often say that they feel they have a mission more important that build a family, build a house and grow the tree – very often it’s all about creativity, art, poetry, music, become a star, mission like serving people in any field. The deeper I go, the more I see and feel. All these layers are felt different.

Dead people are seen near the client and I see them as alive. Usually, they are dressed in clothes they were buried in or some other clothes recognizable by my client. Sometimes I see then younger (for example, the man died in his 80s, but I see him as he was 50 years old – this means his spirit still feels himself as 50-years-old man). Usually he tells me all information he needs to tell, all offences, desires, all his thoughts concerning why you come and don’t come to visit him in the cemetery.

~ Case from my practice ~

Once at mediumship session the soul of the dead husband told his wife Svetlana that she did all right on the funeral. Svetlana made very unusual and extraordinary funeral with piano and she was worried if his soul liked it. He did. Thank God. Moreover, he said some words in French, and Svetlana said that they are from his favorite song. I don’t know any French songs so it was definitely his message from the Other side.